Destinations

Oscar decided to give me a list of places he’d like to visit, and I’m taking him apparently. It was a little unexpected as there has been no mention of holiday’s or travel in general, but it’s quite an impressive list and started an interesting discussion about a few of the places and his reasons for going.

This is the list …

  1. Hawaii
  2. Vietnam
  3. Thailand
  4. Denmark
  5. China/ Hong Kong
  6. Canada
  7. India
  8. Australia

So I started with the unusual ones for a 10 year old, Thailand and Vietnam, he’s seen them in a few films and TV things and ‘they look interesting’. I explained these might be better explored when he’s older, late teens onward. Both are places I have never been and would like to see, so it’s a possibility.

Hawaii I have been to and it’s a beautiful place, very laid back, a beach type holiday but with history too.I told him about the active volcano and walking up to see the lava flowing also I explained Pearl harbour and have promised to dig out the photos for him. I would love to return but the journey times put me off a little. Although a stop-over on the return could work.

India is somewhere I have been promising to take him for a few years, it’s a favourite country for both myself and my mum. He’s always hearing good things and we will get there soon.

China/ Hong Kong is somewhere I always wanted to visit and had an opportunity a few years back, for many reasons I didn’t take it and in some ways I’m glad but also sad. I’m not sure we will ever get there but I would love to see Hong Kong probably for the same reasons Oscar does.

Canada is his current favourite place because a You-Tuber he follows lives there. It looks fine, not somewhere that’s ever excited me to travel to but who knows. It seems like a colder U.K.

Australia has been on his holiday list for as long as I can remember and he often tells people he’s Australian because we have relatives there ! Again it’s a place I’d love to see but the flight/cost makes it one of those once in a life time kind of holidays.

Denmark is the new one, not sure where this has come from and again not somewhere I have visited. I don’t know a great deal about the country so a bit of research and who knows…

What about you ? Any dream destinations ? Anywhere a child/family member has suggested that has been unexpected or booked somewhere on a whim and loved/hated it ?

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Behind the scenes at Dunham Massey

Sometimes misreading a calendar has it’s advantages, and this was one of them. Dunham Massey is somewhere I’ve wanted to visit for a while, so whilst looking through the national trust book I ‘thought’ it said the house reopened to the public from February.

Off we set, a grey day with drizzly rain which got heavier and heavier the closer we got. Thankfully it was well signposted and easy to find as I forgot the trusty sat-nag (she drives me bonkers and causes more road-rage than any driver ever could)

So we arrived and made a quick dash inside, unfortunately the house wasn’t fully open but they had guided tours for certain areas. I was a little disappointed (at my mistake) but my mind was soon changed as we had a great time.

The first tour was all ‘below stairs’ the guide was beautifully dressed, very informative and hilarious. He told us all about what jobs we would be expected to do, conditions and even had the children getting involved. One boy (aged about 6) was perfectly dressed for his new role as a tiger in his orange and black coat. A tiger was a small stable boy who held the reins of a horse to keep it from moving around. Oscar and another boy were too young to be household boys, so they could have been scarecrows, running up and down the fields shouting to keep the birds away. At 12 they would/could have moved inside of the house for other duties. The first being silver polishing, which they both did very well.

Then we went into the kitchens and laundry rooms, time for us to get wet. The children had a go at washing using a tub and dolly, it lead to lots of splashing and laughing. They all agreed that washing machines made life a lot easier now. It was interesting to discover that gin was used for washing silk, I wonder at what point they decided to have a taste?

The next tour was the art of the house and the two tour guides made this tour something special, they were like a comedy double act. Even Oscar, who wasn’t looking forward to this one because it sounded boring, loved it. The half hour tour took 90 minutes and I’ve never laughed or enjoyed a ‘serious’ tour so much.

I learnt a lot from both of these tours and we are both looking forward to going back again to see the rest of the house and explore the beautiful grounds, weather permitting.

Getting home was an adventure in itself as following road signs for the motorway lead us round in a circle back to where we started ! At least we know for future reference which signs to follow and how to get home.

12 months on ….

I miss you everyday, I say good morning to your photo in the kitchen and tell you my fears, dreams and joys every night before I sleep. We sing along to songs you loved in the car and laugh at the funny things you did with us.

You may not be here in body but in our hearts and minds you will never be forgotten. A huge part of our lives and always will be, Phil,my best friend.

You were as stubborn and as opinionated as me and from time to time we disagreed in a BIG way, but you always valued my views and although didn’t agree could let it pass between us. I know you loved listening to the drama/disaster/chaos going on in my life and workplace because it took your mind away from your pains and problems. One of the things I miss most is waking up to a text message telling me what offer you found at Tesco at 3am because you couldn’t sleep.

I know wherever you are everyone around you will be well fed with a smile on their faces.

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2017 book challenge update

So it’s March already, this year is trundling along and so is the book challenge. Here’s where I’m up to already.

1 – About a place you wish you lived –  The leaving of things by Jay Antani (set in India)

2 – In a genre you usually avoid – The Lost city of Z by David Grann

3 – With Yellow on the cover – The case of the broken doll by Alison Golden and Grace Dagnell 

4 – That is becoming a movie in 2017 – The Dinner by Herman Koch.

5 – Book with a one word title – Greyhound by Steffan Piper.

6 – An Audiobook – Does a podcast count? 

7 – You can get for free – most of my books are from the library so all fit into this category.

8 – You planned to read last year but didn’t – End of Watch by Stephen King.

9 – You read on a trip –

10 – Suggested by a friend – State of Wonder by Ann Patchett

11 – From a series you started but have yet to finish – Finders Keepers by Stephen King.

12 – You can finish in a day – Blackout by Emily Barr

13 – Published this year – leaving this until later in the year for obvious reasons 

14 – With an epic romance – suggestions greatly received but can we avoid the Jane Austin, Bronte types as these don’t do anything for me. 

15 – That takes you somewhere warm –

16 – Of short stories or under 200 pages – Public Library and other short stories by Ali Smith

17 – Considered a 20th century classic – The magic toy shop by Angela Carter

18 – Set in the future – The Circle by Dave Eggers

19 – You choose because of the cover – The Watcher by Ross Armstrong

20 – With a reputation of un-put-down-able – suggestions for this please ?

21 – With a mother/daughter relationship – The Taken by Alice Clark-Platts

22 – Free Choice –

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a day in my life …. photo diary

A busy but productive mother/daughter day …..

The film challenge update

I’ve had a lot of time over the last few months and have watched a fair number of films, some have been fantastic but not made the top 250 list and others (on The list) have been awful, tedious and boring.

I finally got organised and put the film list onto an Excel document, marked and highlighted the watched ones, so now I know I have seen 156 out of 250, not a bad figure.

One film I have watched recently (not on the list) was Dreams of a life, a documentary type film. A true story about a woman, Joyce Vincent, who was found dead in her London flat. She had been dead for three years, she had friends, family and work colleagues. So how could it happen ? How can someone just disappear and it not be noticed ? Since finishing work I can understand a little how this could be, I have hardly seen anyone. If it wasn’t for the school run and my immediate family I could have dropped off the earth and not been noticed. Everyone relies on the very ‘unsocial’ social media to keep in contact but I find that I’m using it less now, possible because it feels like my life has nothing going on and very little worth telling anyone about.

Any way enough wallowing, I’ve still got films to watch ……

 

A bit of plastic

A couple of weeks ago a small piece of plastic came into our lives and made quite a difference. What is this ?

 

A fidget cube, a small cube, 6 sides with something different on each side to fidget with. Very simple, but also effective. I fits neatly into the palm of your hand and even for a child its comfortable to hold. I bought it for Oscar, to try and stop his nail biting (he’s hardly got any left) and it’s working. Each side has a different action, some click whilst others are silent, each has a different feel.

It was originally designed as an anti-stress ‘toy’ for adults, however for children with anxiety or sensory issues it also has advantages.

After a quick chat with the teacher it was decided that he could have it in class, provided he didn’t ‘mess’ about with it or use the clicker too often. It has been successful. He says it makes him feel calmer and it helps him concentrate.

Unfortunately the small size also makes it easy to lose, as was the case a few days ago. We turned to house upside down but nothing. I ordered a couple of spares, and true to form the original one turned up on the day the spares arrived. I find myself quite often holding it and it is calming.