A couple of weeks ago a small piece of plastic came into our lives and made quite a difference. What is this ?
A fidget cube, a small cube, 6 sides with something different on each side to fidget with. Very simple, but also effective. I fits neatly into the palm of your hand and even for a child its comfortable to hold. I bought it for Oscar, to try and stop his nail biting (he’s hardly got any left) and it’s working. Each side has a different action, some click whilst others are silent, each has a different feel.
It was originally designed as an anti-stress ‘toy’ for adults, however for children with anxiety or sensory issues it also has advantages.
After a quick chat with the teacher it was decided that he could have it in class, provided he didn’t ‘mess’ about with it or use the clicker too often. It has been successful. He says it makes him feel calmer and it helps him concentrate.
Unfortunately the small size also makes it easy to lose, as was the case a few days ago. We turned to house upside down but nothing. I ordered a couple of spares, and true to form the original one turned up on the day the spares arrived. I find myself quite often holding it and it is calming.
My last post was also my 100th post, so many things have changed since that first one, even blogging has changed for me. At the start it was new and scary, but a few posts in and I was enjoying doing things, looking for reasons to write.
Then life changed, in many ways and my world became tiny, distanced from friends, no routine. Lonely, boring and not blog worthy.
I’ve been thinking about a few dilemmas over the last few days. So here’s where you might be able to help me. As a single parent, making decisions can be terrifying, so having people around to discuss ideas, suggestions and recommendations is always helpful.
The current dilemma – to get my son his own mobile phone or not ? He’s starting secondary school soon. Here are my thoughts …
Around half of the kids in his class already have one, including some that he wants to keep contact with when he leaves for secondary school. I understand the pressure to be the same, keep up but it worries me. Is he old enough for the responsibility of a phone and internet access. I trust that he will tell me of any issues, and we’ve discussed rules. He already talks to me about any issues he has, so will it make that bond stronger or push him away ?
Getting one now will give him time to get used to using it with kids he is comfortable around before he moves to his new school. Also they could be a good support when he moves if he needs it.
So what do you think ? Any advice, guidance will be appreciated.
Thank you my friends for being around and the support you’ve given me, here’s to the next 100 posts….
December came and went so fast, I realised whilst updating the list that I didn’t tell you any of the fun we had before, during or after Christmas.
My birthday is in December so for a treat, Oscar and I, went to Liverpool for the day. We went ice skating and then had 3 goes on the ice slide, which was hilarious, and yet again I fell over, I need to start drinking alcohol ! Afterwards we had a lovely meal.
We had a visit to craft fair at Birkenhead Priory, not somewhere I’ve ever visited before but we will return for a proper look around as it was beautiful, if a little cold and Oscar was spooked by the darkness inside, I bought some lovely handmade presents. Maybe a summer visit next time.
Christmas eve we went bowling, and even though I got 3 strikes Oscar still won, I’m sure the machine was broken ! The usual excitement and nerves kicked in waiting for Santa to arrive. Thankfully he did.
Followed by a quiet few days whist Oscar was away with his dad, which gave me some reading and sewing time.
New years eve he was home, just the two of us so it was a quiet one. We made his 3d jigsaw (thankfully all the pieces are numbered), played games and did some reading whilst waiting for midnight and the fireworks. A lovely end to a not so pleasant year.
Sorry but sometimes you just have to brag. My beautiful boy has a love of reading and writing, even with dyslexia and concentration issues, he ploughs on through.
Earlier this year he heard about a creative writing group and wanted to join. So off we went and it was fantastic. They talked, played games, made notes, wrote poems and stories but most of all he made friends and built his confidence in his ability.
His story was published in a book, which we gave to relatives as a present.
Don’t let anything hold you back. If you enjoy it, then do it (as long as it’s legal)
One thing being a parent has taught me is that children just do. It’s only as we get older that we let fear hold us back, but fear of what ? Usually failure or looking stupid, well don’t worry about it because whilst you think you look stupid, other are watching thinking how brave, I wish I could do that.
Make 2017 the year you have a go..