12 months on ….

I miss you everyday, I say good morning to your photo in the kitchen and tell you my fears, dreams and joys every night before I sleep. We sing along to songs you loved in the car and laugh at the funny things you did with us.

You may not be here in body but in our hearts and minds you will never be forgotten. A huge part of our lives and always will be, Phil,my best friend.

You were as stubborn and as opinionated as me and from time to time we disagreed in a BIG way, but you always valued my views and although didn’t agree could let it pass between us. I know you loved listening to the drama/disaster/chaos going on in my life and workplace because it took your mind away from your pains and problems. One of the things I miss most is waking up to a text message telling me what offer you found at Tesco at 3am because you couldn’t sleep.

I know wherever you are everyone around you will be well fed with a smile on their faces.

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2017 book challenge update

So it’s March already, this year is trundling along and so is the book challenge. Here’s where I’m up to already.

1 – About a place you wish you lived –  The leaving of things by Jay Antani (set in India)

2 – In a genre you usually avoid – The Lost city of Z by David Grann

3 – With Yellow on the cover – The case of the broken doll by Alison Golden and Grace Dagnell 

4 – That is becoming a movie in 2017 – The Dinner by Herman Koch.

5 – Book with a one word title – Greyhound by Steffan Piper.

6 – An Audiobook – Does a podcast count? 

7 – You can get for free – most of my books are from the library so all fit into this category.

8 – You planned to read last year but didn’t – End of Watch by Stephen King.

9 – You read on a trip –

10 – Suggested by a friend – State of Wonder by Ann Patchett

11 – From a series you started but have yet to finish – Finders Keepers by Stephen King.

12 – You can finish in a day – Blackout by Emily Barr

13 – Published this year – leaving this until later in the year for obvious reasons 

14 – With an epic romance – suggestions greatly received but can we avoid the Jane Austin, Bronte types as these don’t do anything for me. 

15 – That takes you somewhere warm –

16 – Of short stories or under 200 pages – Public Library and other short stories by Ali Smith

17 – Considered a 20th century classic – The magic toy shop by Angela Carter

18 – Set in the future – The Circle by Dave Eggers

19 – You choose because of the cover – The Watcher by Ross Armstrong

20 – With a reputation of un-put-down-able – suggestions for this please ?

21 – With a mother/daughter relationship – The Taken by Alice Clark-Platts

22 – Free Choice –

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a day in my life …. photo diary

A busy but productive mother/daughter day …..

The film challenge update

I’ve had a lot of time over the last few months and have watched a fair number of films, some have been fantastic but not made the top 250 list and others (on The list) have been awful, tedious and boring.

I finally got organised and put the film list onto an Excel document, marked and highlighted the watched ones, so now I know I have seen 156 out of 250, not a bad figure.

One film I have watched recently (not on the list) was Dreams of a life, a documentary type film. A true story about a woman, Joyce Vincent, who was found dead in her London flat. She had been dead for three years, she had friends, family and work colleagues. So how could it happen ? How can someone just disappear and it not be noticed ? Since finishing work I can understand a little how this could be, I have hardly seen anyone. If it wasn’t for the school run and my immediate family I could have dropped off the earth and not been noticed. Everyone relies on the very ‘unsocial’ social media to keep in contact but I find that I’m using it less now, possible because it feels like my life has nothing going on and very little worth telling anyone about.

Any way enough wallowing, I’ve still got films to watch ……

 

A bit of plastic

A couple of weeks ago a small piece of plastic came into our lives and made quite a difference. What is this ?

 

A fidget cube, a small cube, 6 sides with something different on each side to fidget with. Very simple, but also effective. I fits neatly into the palm of your hand and even for a child its comfortable to hold. I bought it for Oscar, to try and stop his nail biting (he’s hardly got any left) and it’s working. Each side has a different action, some click whilst others are silent, each has a different feel.

It was originally designed as an anti-stress ‘toy’ for adults, however for children with anxiety or sensory issues it also has advantages.

After a quick chat with the teacher it was decided that he could have it in class, provided he didn’t ‘mess’ about with it or use the clicker too often. It has been successful. He says it makes him feel calmer and it helps him concentrate.

Unfortunately the small size also makes it easy to lose, as was the case a few days ago. We turned to house upside down but nothing. I ordered a couple of spares, and true to form the original one turned up on the day the spares arrived. I find myself quite often holding it and it is calming.

 

100 posts and counting …

My last post was also my 100th post, so many things have changed since that first one, even blogging has changed for me. At the start it was new and scary, but a few posts in and I was enjoying doing things, looking for reasons to write.

Then life changed, in many ways and my world became tiny, distanced from friends, no routine. Lonely, boring and not blog worthy.

I’ve been thinking about a few dilemmas over the last few days. So here’s where you might be able to help me. As a single parent, making decisions can be terrifying, so having people around to discuss ideas, suggestions and recommendations is always helpful.

The current dilemma – to get my son his own mobile phone or not ? He’s starting secondary school soon. Here are my thoughts …

Around half of the kids in his class already have one, including some that he wants to keep contact with when he leaves for secondary school. I understand the pressure to be the same, keep up but it worries me. Is he old enough for the responsibility of a phone and internet access. I trust that he will tell me of any issues, and we’ve discussed rules. He already talks to me about any issues he has, so will it make that bond stronger or push him away ?

Getting one now will give him time to get used to using it with kids he is comfortable around before he moves to his new school. Also they could be a good support when he moves if he needs it.

So what do you think ? Any advice, guidance will be appreciated.

Thank you my friends for being around and the support you’ve given me, here’s to the next 100 posts….

An update

I’m rubbish at blogging recently. I have time but nothing to write or lots to write but not enough time.

I missed my blogversary, it was 25th Feb and to be honest I don’t even remember what I was doing that day/night. I do know that my first post, 50 things was written to give me some challenges in a somewhat boring, mundane life. Since then my life has been turned upside down and inside out and if anything it feels even more boring now than 12 months ago. I am still working on completing the challenges but trying to change to a more enjoyable life is a bigger priority.

My new job isn’t working out very well, although it is at least paying the bills. I have other options ongoing so hopefully better things are to come.

The Oscar’s have been and gone, so I will update the film list in the next few days. I have watched some excellent films recently, although most haven’t made it on to the top 250 list. The book challenge is coming along well, travelling by bus most days allows reading time I never had when driving to work previously. It does have its drawbacks though, like when school ring about a sick child and it takes over an hour to get there, even though its only about 5 miles.

I will make an effort this week to post more and read as many other blogs as possible.