A busy but productive mother/daughter day …..
I’ve had a lot of time over the last few months and have watched a fair number of films, some have been fantastic but not made the top 250 list and others (on The list) have been awful, tedious and boring.
I finally got organised and put the film list onto an Excel document, marked and highlighted the watched ones, so now I know I have seen 156 out of 250, not a bad figure.
One film I have watched recently (not on the list) was Dreams of a life, a documentary type film. A true story about a woman, Joyce Vincent, who was found dead in her London flat. She had been dead for three years, she had friends, family and work colleagues. So how could it happen ? How can someone just disappear and it not be noticed ? Since finishing work I can understand a little how this could be, I have hardly seen anyone. If it wasn’t for the school run and my immediate family I could have dropped off the earth and not been noticed. Everyone relies on the very ‘unsocial’ social media to keep in contact but I find that I’m using it less now, possible because it feels like my life has nothing going on and very little worth telling anyone about.
Any way enough wallowing, I’ve still got films to watch ……
A couple of weeks ago a small piece of plastic came into our lives and made quite a difference. What is this ?
A fidget cube, a small cube, 6 sides with something different on each side to fidget with. Very simple, but also effective. I fits neatly into the palm of your hand and even for a child its comfortable to hold. I bought it for Oscar, to try and stop his nail biting (he’s hardly got any left) and it’s working. Each side has a different action, some click whilst others are silent, each has a different feel.
It was originally designed as an anti-stress ‘toy’ for adults, however for children with anxiety or sensory issues it also has advantages.
After a quick chat with the teacher it was decided that he could have it in class, provided he didn’t ‘mess’ about with it or use the clicker too often. It has been successful. He says it makes him feel calmer and it helps him concentrate.
Unfortunately the small size also makes it easy to lose, as was the case a few days ago. We turned to house upside down but nothing. I ordered a couple of spares, and true to form the original one turned up on the day the spares arrived. I find myself quite often holding it and it is calming.
My last post was also my 100th post, so many things have changed since that first one, even blogging has changed for me. At the start it was new and scary, but a few posts in and I was enjoying doing things, looking for reasons to write.
Then life changed, in many ways and my world became tiny, distanced from friends, no routine. Lonely, boring and not blog worthy.
I’ve been thinking about a few dilemmas over the last few days. So here’s where you might be able to help me. As a single parent, making decisions can be terrifying, so having people around to discuss ideas, suggestions and recommendations is always helpful.
The current dilemma – to get my son his own mobile phone or not ? He’s starting secondary school soon. Here are my thoughts …
Around half of the kids in his class already have one, including some that he wants to keep contact with when he leaves for secondary school. I understand the pressure to be the same, keep up but it worries me. Is he old enough for the responsibility of a phone and internet access. I trust that he will tell me of any issues, and we’ve discussed rules. He already talks to me about any issues he has, so will it make that bond stronger or push him away ?
Getting one now will give him time to get used to using it with kids he is comfortable around before he moves to his new school. Also they could be a good support when he moves if he needs it.
So what do you think ? Any advice, guidance will be appreciated.
Thank you my friends for being around and the support you’ve given me, here’s to the next 100 posts….
I’m rubbish at blogging recently. I have time but nothing to write or lots to write but not enough time.
I missed my blogversary, it was 25th Feb and to be honest I don’t even remember what I was doing that day/night. I do know that my first post, 50 things was written to give me some challenges in a somewhat boring, mundane life. Since then my life has been turned upside down and inside out and if anything it feels even more boring now than 12 months ago. I am still working on completing the challenges but trying to change to a more enjoyable life is a bigger priority.
My new job isn’t working out very well, although it is at least paying the bills. I have other options ongoing so hopefully better things are to come.
The Oscar’s have been and gone, so I will update the film list in the next few days. I have watched some excellent films recently, although most haven’t made it on to the top 250 list. The book challenge is coming along well, travelling by bus most days allows reading time I never had when driving to work previously. It does have its drawbacks though, like when school ring about a sick child and it takes over an hour to get there, even though its only about 5 miles.
I will make an effort this week to post more and read as many other blogs as possible.
Well my training finished today so tomorrow I am being let loose on real live people. It’s a scary prospect, here’s hoping for the time to pass quickly and without any tricky customers. I might not be looking forward to working weekends but my bank account may be a little happier in a few weeks time.
I’m still applying for other jobs with hours that suit the family better. Keep your fingers crossed that tomorrow goes well and something more convenient comes along soon…
I’ll let you know if anything happens/changes.
I’m still working on my film list and reading challenge, both are coming along well.
Where did it go ! The month seems to have flown by and quite a few things happened which kept it interesting.
We started the year with a broken boiler, thankfully it was replaced quickly and without us being without heating or hot water for very long.
The job hunting was still ongoing, applications being sent everywhere, every day and with very little in response. Then one of my old employers died and at the funeral a chance encounter led to a job offer. I met with my new employer and within a couple of hours I was registered for classroom training, online training and my work rota organised. I spent a good few hours doing the online training, thankfully my previous employment had prepared me well for this tedious task.
As well as my old employer we also lost my great uncle, a lovely man who is now reunited with the love of his life.
I spent an evening at the ballet – Giselle – with my mum. Not a ballet either us had seen before, it was very enjoyable. We also bought our tickets to Matthew Bourne’s production of the red shoes for later in the year, super excited !
A few good days out to some new places and some old favourites, mostly alone, the Lady Lever art gallery, Sudley house, World museum, St Georges hall and The Walker art gallery. Not bad for one month.
I’ve also been reading tons, watching films and updating all my challenge lists. more details to follow ….
I hope your January has been a good one x